Small, positive changes

To change your life, either for better or worse, is a gradual undertaking. It doesn’t go to pot all at once and it doesn’t fix itself all at once. It is more about making small positive (or negative) changes that over time accumulate and grow and make an impact. So that’s what I’ve been focusing on, making small, positive changes.

After the madness of Christmas had died down, I refocused my mind on the changes I wanted to implement and set about ways in which I would do so. Like I said in my last post I wanted to “get out of my head and out of my bed” . I started with the latter, my safe haven. I got up every morning and set myself up downstairs and that is where I stayed until bedtime, besides going out of course. From there, I noticed more of what needed to be done around the house and got on top of that.

Then I looked at my eating. Instead of overloading on cheese and carbs for every meal, I started by cleaning up my lunch. A simple Chicken Salad with carrot sticks and hummus on the side. I have had that pretty much every day for the last 3 weeks give or take 1 or 2 meals, what can I say, I’m a creature of habit. That one step, however, then led to me cleaning up what I was eating for tea (dinner). THEN, I stumbled upon intermittent fasting and the benefits of leaving larger gaps between meals in order to combat insulin resistance and aid fat burning. Since I was not much of a breakfast person anyway I switched to a 16/8 routine with the first meal at the start of the 8 hours, around midday, and the second meal at the end with about 5 hours no snacking in between.  

This alongside walking every day has meant I have lost 5 pounds so far this month (I lost quite a bit of weight in the lead up to Christmas due to a diet change so this is good, steady progress). As a result, I am starting to regain confidence, I am starting to see the body I used to know and love (somewhat) and it reminded me of who I was then and still am now. I’m also finding I have so much more energy, I can literally feel the difference in my body and how it responds.

I’ve also managed to overcome my anxiety yet again and have started going back to Church. Another small step but it has given me such a boost and has reminded me God is on my side. Within two days of praying within the Church for guidance my eyes were opened even further to the negative patterns that were in play in my life that needed addressing. Albeit a coincidence for those who aren’t religious, though the videos I stumbled upon were very Christianity orientated to add to the coincidence.

I also walked into and around my local town without fear of who I might see and the horror on their faces when they enquire “What are you up to these days?” and I give them the honest answer. I actually bumped into someone I knew who asked that very question and it wasn’t hard or scary to answer – what was I so afraid of?

Therefore, what starts as a small change, can actually begin to snowball into a much bigger change. Just like planting a seed in good soil can take root and grow into something far greater. So, what small positive changes could you implement in your life to change it for the better?

“While it may seem small, the ripple effects of small things is extraordinary” Matt Bevin

“Tears and fears and feeling proud”

Well, it’s that time of year again. What was once my favourite time of year but now is ever so slightly bittersweet. With the season though, comes all those classic Christmas films that it just wouldn’t be Christmas without, one of which being ‘Love, Actually’. A truly uplifting and feel good film but there are a few poignant, heart-wrenching scenes that come to mind. Most poignant perhaps is the scene where Emma Thompson’s character breaks down listening to Joni Mitchell’s ‘Both Sides Now’ after realising the gold necklace her husband bought wasn’t actually for her. We all cried with her there, right?!

Well fast forward a few days from re-watching this classic, I was meditating, something I do a lot these days, and this song kept coming into my head. I would entertain it for a moment then refocus but it just kept coming back. So when I was done, I typed it in on YouTube and had a listen (or 20). Let me tell you, this song is the whole package. Not only is it sang beautifully and composed beautifully but the lyrics …. wow!

“Tears and fears and feeling proud” – this line in particular perfectly summed up how I was feeling that evening. My purpose for meditating has been to rid myself of all distractions and really connect and be a space of love for all the emotions I was distracting myself from. Sadness, anger, guilt, shame … you name it I’ve felt it and I’ve repressed it. So inevitably there have been tears, and lots of them, and boy has it felt good to let them all out.

Fears – I have lots of them, too. This year for the most part, and even before then, I have let my fears and anxiety rule my life to the point you couldn’t even call it a life. Again, meditation is amazing in helping this, which leads us to feeling proud. Yesterday I felt so proud of myself and the progress I’ve made. I had to post a parcel, pretty standard thing for most people, go in, state what delivery you require, pay and pass it over right? Or for some it goes something like this … “What do I say when I get to the counter?”, “Is it packaged right?”, “Do I look stupid in what I’m wearing?”, “Don’t say anything stupid!”, “Why am I sweating so much?”, “Oh god I dropped my money” and it doesn’t stop there. I could have encounters at a checkout in a supermarket that I’d go home and still be thinking about days later wondering if they were laughing at me or if I said the right thing or did the right thing.

Not yesterday though, I walked in fully confident. I took out the parcel, placed it on the scales and asked for second class. She asked a few security and value questions, my mind was clear enough to process what she’d asked and answer clearly and concisely (definitely not always the case). I wasn’t sweating or overthinking and when I was done I just walked out and on to the next thing. And the only thing I’ve thought since about the whole thing is who was that person that did all that? I hope she’s here to stay!

Well if you’ve made it thus far, or are reading at all, thank you very much and I hope you visit again.

“Well something’s lost, but something’s gained 
In living every day.”
Joni Mitchell